Every day I write the book

It’s hard to write each week and think of things that won’t totally bore you all to death, but some days I need to write just for Ben and I. 🙂 We had a glorious day yesterday and saturday. We all went shopping for flowers for the gardens, and yesterday planted them. I had the idea to put pots outside in our front flower bed to give it a little “height” (well, that’s what the gardening magazines say, anyway)…so we got some big pots and I plunked a bunch of flowers in them. The front bed also got planted with Impatiens and Petunias…and we got two huge hanging baskets of geraniums for the front of the house, also. Ben helped pick everything out, and kept Scott and I company while we planted. The garden is half in…peas are going crazy and Scott is working on a trellis contraption to start them climbing (last year’s idea was not good…so we’re trying something new)….we also got the beans in yesterday, planted new rosemary in the herb section, and a lavender plant too. Ben so likes to be outside, we keep him with us and talk to him as we work…and he enjoys the sunshine. He’s a great supervisor!

Last week I noticed a few new changes in Ben…well, not new, just expected, small but significant. Monday and tuesday of last week Ben slept round the clock….he had good “awake time” the other days…He will go for a few days with a normal schedule (which means three to four hours in the afternoon, and an hour or two in the morning awake) then will have a couple days where all he does is sleep. He’s starting to sleep more. He is also eating slightly less…mostly because eating just tires him out so much. He gets so hungry, then he just stops eating after only three or four ounces. He eats less than a normal baby anyway, and his eating has declined slightly. As I said, the things I”m seeing are small changes, but significant.

We went for so many weeks where it was easy to forget that Ben is not a regular kid…so many weeks where he did so well, that to see him change again is very difficult. It’s hard for me to be home with him all day and watch him just sleep….I feel like I’m cheating him by not playing with him, working on his excersizes, or interacting with him. But if he needs to sleep, then he needs to sleep. It is so hard to remember that Ben needs that rest, and that his body gets tired out so easily.
I think that we will still go for a walk today….the fresh air is good for Ben and I both, even if he does sleep through it all.

Got a nice thought on Email today, and wanted to share:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.


2 Responses to “Every day I write the book”

  1. dc_chick06 Says:

    The weather has been great these past few days, and i’m glad You, Mr. Randall, and little Ben got to enjoy it…Hopefully it stays this way now! Again, best wishes to all of you.


    P.S. Thats a great email, my friend’s mom sent that one to me a while back.

  2. Anonymous Says:

    Scott and Kym, it was so great to meet Ben last week when you brought him to NSF. He has such presence! There is nothing “neutral” about him, he’s right there, full of personality and Ben-ness (if you know what I mean!) All of which makes his quiet, sleepy times more noticeable, I’m sure. And hard. You are all often in my thoughts and prayers. Nancy Q

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