Food for Thought

A few further thoughts on the idea of struggle, as well as a picture of Ben.
I remembered this story the other day and thought it related well to the entry I wrote about Ben and his milestones. This is one of my favorite parables:

A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth. He took it home so that he could watch the moth come out of the cocoon. On the day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the moth for several hours as the moth struggled to force the body through that little hole.

The moth seemed to be stuck and appeared to have stopped making progress. It seemed as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther. The man, in his kindness, decided to help the moth; so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The moth then emerged easily. But its body was swollen and small, its wings wrinkled and shriveled.

The man continued to watch the moth because he expected that, at any moment, the wings would enlarge and expand to and able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the little moth spent the rest of its life crawling around with a small, swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

The man in his kindness and haste did not understand that the struggle required for the moth to get through the tiny opening was necessary to force fluid from the body of the moth into its wings so that it would be ready for flight upon achieving its freedom from the cocoon. Freedom and flight would only come after the struggle. By depriving the moth of a struggle, he deprived the moth of health.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If we were to go through our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. Give every opportunity a chance, leave no room for regrets, and don’t forget the power in the struggle.

A picture of what doesn’t look much like

The Stander

This is one of the two devices that Ben’s PT uses to help him stand. This is the one he uses at school, the other is at the clinic we go to on Saturdays. Ben is not willingly bearing any weight on his legs at this point, and it is necessary for him to do this so that his hips and legs will develop properly, so we buckle him into this. It provides support for his legs and torso, and keeps his legs straight so that he can bear weight on his legs. You can see, if you look closely, a pair of padded wraps around his legs. These are quilted and have a metal stay in the back to keep his knees straight. We also use them on his arms to help him support his weight when we move him into a four point, or crawling position.
When we started using these standers, Ben HATED them. I kept telling his PT (half jokingly) that we had to pretend that this was the BEST. THING. EVER. because Ben was going to hate it. Now he’s doing okay in them, he’s willing to hold his torso up from his hips instead of leaning forward, sticking his tush out and resting his chest to support his weight.
Watching Ben stand on his own two feet is amazing.

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One Response to “Food for Thought”

  1. jackiemania Says:

    and now you have me crying in work πŸ™‚

    I’m going to repost this in my LJ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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